Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Today's slice of life is about "letting go"!

Yeah, I'm making the most of my online time. mrgreen So here's a lot of information about letting go. Lemme know if it was useful, what you think, how you see the act of letting go!mrgreen

Letting go takes love, for ourselves. It takes time and most important, it takes patience.

From this link:

"What is Letting Go?"

To "let go" does not mean to stop caring. It means I can't do it for someone else.

To "let go" is not to cut myself off. It's the realization that I can't control another.

To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another. It's to make the most of myself.

To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about.

To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.

To "let go" is not to be in the middle, arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.

To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept.

To "let go" is not to nag, scold, or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.

To "let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.

To "let go" is to fear less and to love more.

— Author Unknown

I use to believe this 100% "I should be in control of everything that is important in my life."

Unfortunately you are powerless to control most people, places, and things in your life since you can only be fully in control of your internal locus of control and your own thoughts, emotions, and actions.

I now understand and accept this: My Internal Locus of Control:

Internal locus of control is giving yourself the power to influence your feelings about yourself.

Internal locus of control places self-approval, self-recognition, self-acceptance, self-reinforcement, and self-affirmation of worth into your own hands. In this way it is only up to you and your own efforts at self-love and care to feel worthwhile, valuable, competent, skillful, creative, knowledgeable, and capable of living your life for yourself and not controlled by others. You are then fully responsible for your own thinking, emotions, and actions in life.

Are you good at letting go? Are you able to let go when you are preoccupied? Letting go and doing 100% of what we can do is the key IMO... I remind myself daily to "Let go and Let God" mrgreen Letting go is accepting that I can't control everything... and it is true... It's not always a fun realisation but it's freaking life!!!! I control only what is really up to me. Do my best in everything, while remember what I can and what I can't do. What's on my shoulder and what shouldn't be... mrgreen

Good God guys? Are you following me? Comments, insults, questions!!!! confused


melissa said...

Here's a comment!
You are so right about letting go. One of the hardest things to do is to realize that you can only control yourself. That is something I struggle with every day.

No Nonsense Girl said...

Hi Melissa,

It's hard when you realise it in the beginning but it's helpful afterall because it gives us perspective on life.

The more I let go on things I can't control in my life, the more I'm at peace and not worried, stressed...

Have a great day!!!!

Sandy Carlson said...

This is all so true. The Spanish expression "hold on lightly, let go lightly" applies here!